Accept, forgive, and release for inner peace

There are some people in our lives that we don’t understand. I don’t understand the way some people think, how they behave, or their motives. I don’t agree with many of their opinions or ideas. They can seem  unsupportive, rude, and just plain mean. When in the presence of such people we often get angry, annoyed, upset, and defensive. And unfortunately, there are some people that will always be in our lives so we must learn to deal with them and keep ourselves at peace.

A wise friend recently said something that really resonated with me. “Some people never change. They are who they are and you cannot change them. You don’t need to understand them and you don’t need to agree with them. You just need to accept them. Accept them for who they are.” Acceptance, huh? I thought about this for a while and I kept coming back to the idea of perception. A Course in Miracles says that a miracle is a change in perception. This would definitely qualify as a miracle if I could change my perception about such people! I added forgiveness and release to the acceptance process because I really feel those steps are necessary as well.

My steps to acceptance:

1. Why are they the way they are? What has caused them to lose sight of love and be bitter? What have they had to deal with in their lives that could explain their personalities?

2. Empathy

3. Acceptance. “I accept you for your authentic and real self. I accept that I don’t always understand you. I accept that we are different and that is ok. I accept that I cannot and should not change you. I accept you for you and for all the reasons that made you, you.”

Steps to forgiveness:

1. Without getting yourself all worked up, how have these people wronged or hurt you?

2. Chose to change your perception about these situations and see how you could have been at fault instead of the other person.

3. Go deep and feel the feelings that come up for you. Breathe through it and release them. Holding onto these feelings will not bring you closer to inner peace.

4. Forgive: "I accept you and I forgive you. I will leave all ill feelings in the past". 
Ask for forgiveness:“I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” (this is a pretty well known Hawaiian mantra for forgiveness.” FEEL this.

Understand that forgiveness does NOT mean you are condoning anyone’s behavior. You are just choosing to forgive in order to release.

The subsequent release of ill feelings and thoughts will naturally occur. Use meditation to relax your mind and soul and picture yourself physically releasing the person/people. Gabrielle Bernstein has some useful guided meditations.A HerFuture.com lady suggested a meditation where you extend a loving light from you to other people sending them love and receiving more love in return. Another mentioned envisioning roses all around her sucking up the negative energy and replenishing her with positive energy. In meditation, the possibilities are endless.

For me this will be a long process. I have a lot of pent up anger. It will take work and a true commitment. It’s worth it in the long run J

Here’s to changing perceptions and miracles.

<3 Live, Love, Miracles

Day 2: Dr. Lissa Rankin

Day 2 was centered about your body. Who better than Dr. Lissa Rankin to speak about that. She is a gynecologist and author, among other things. This was a really powerful and eye opening call. 

Could it be that the medical world has been deceiving us for many years? Do we really need doctors and modern medicine to heal ourselves. Lissa argues that no, we do not. We have the power in our minds to completely heal ourselves of all ailments. Think, the placebo effect. This has been driving the medical world crazy. How could a fake drug work?? Easily, if you believe it, anything can happen. Lissa told a story of a doctor diagnosed with a very severe cancer. He was given two weeks to live when a controversial drug was introduced. Absolutely certain it would help him, he convinced his doctors to let him try it. 10 days later he walked out of the hospital without the cancer. However, three months later when he read an article stating that this drug does NOT work, his tumors returned! His doctors (realizing what was happening) assured him he did not receive the pure version of the drug before. Injecting him with saline they told him this was the purest form of the drug. He believed it and was cancer free once again. The story ends with this man reading another article proclaiming once again this drug does NOT work. He died a few days later. True story, think about it. let the power of the mind really sink in for you. It's a lot to wrap your head around.

So what is your source of truth? That man's truth was anything he read in a medical journal. Do you believe everything the news and media tell you? Reconsider the fact that no one knows your body better than you do. The media can tell you a certain disease is untreatable but your mind may know a different truth.YOU should be your source of truth. When you listen carefully to your body, it will always tell you the truth. Lissa calls that your inner pilot light or your feminine intuition. Listen to it, connect to it, and acknowledge what the root cause of your pain or disease is. Until you work through the root cause you will only be throwing medicine at a problem that doesn’t need it. Where are you feeling pain? Ask yourself why and then communicate with your pain or disease. Yeah, I know that sounds crazy. But I have actually heard this multiple times. Wayne Dyer for instance insists that he never gets sick because when he feels something small coming on, he talks to it and heals himself without medicine. His daughter spoke to small facial deformity that the doctors could not get rid of. And what do you know, GONE!

Don't quite believe me? Do your own research. And ask for a miracle to alter your perception of your source of truth and the power of the mind.

The most important lesson learned here is that if you don’t really listen to your body you may miss something that will resurface later as something much worse. Shakay Leon speaks more about this in the next call. Stay tuned.

<3 Live, love, and expect miracles!

P.S. Check out Dr. Lissa’s website: www.owningpink.com

Day 1 of the BFL Summit: SARK

Day 1 of The Big Fat Lies Summit included a call with SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) and Lisa Nichols.

SARK and Amy started off the call letting us all know that we are not alone with our Big Fat Lies (BFL). Every single person has BFL that they tell themselves. Even SARK, Amy, President Obama, and Angelina Jolie. So how do you deal with these BFL??? You make that sacred connection to your inner (wiser) self. Making that connection can be difficult at first so SARK recommended writing yourself a letter from your inner self to let the truth flow out on its own.

She also gave us three crucial steps to achieving harmony:
1. Express
2. Release
3. Relief
The first step is the most important. This is all about expressing your real feelings. Let yourself truly feel whatever is happening for you in that moment and don't repress any of it. Otherwise it would cause a dangerous flood of emotion at a later date. I'm going to dwell on that a bit as I have read a bit about that is Gabrielle Bernstein's books as well. Think about how powerful your feelings and emotions are. You know that if you just hide a feeling it will continue to come up again and again in different situations. It will grow and manifest into something much bigger than the original feeling. So the next time something comes up for you, sit there and let yourself feel all the feelings associated with the event. Acknowledge them as being present. But then let them go (2nd step: release) Forgive yourself, forgive others, and move past it. Practice this and you will immediately reap the benefits (3rd step of feeling relief).
This acknowledgment of your feelings and thoughts is such a great tool. Dr.Chris (the leader of my meditation group) also spoke about noticing your thoughts and feelings during meditation and then releasing them to achieve real peace. SARK suggests actually saying to yourself "I see you, I hear you, I acknowledge you".
So for me, my inner mean girl is telling me that I will never be smart enough to be successful. I see this BFL, I hear it (a lot), I am acknowledging it, and I am letting it go because my inner wiser self is telling me this is bull shit. I will no longer let this BFL lead me through life and hold me back.This is an inner dialogue you need to have with yourself to work through your feelings and BFL. Take control back from your 'inner mean girl'!


Stay tuned for the Lisa Nichols blog. She is awesome!

Live, love, and expect miracles <3